My Sophia Voice

We are overcomers by nature; a Hustle Mama will be going via all kinds of pains and still characterize and do what she has to do with a smile

We. are SURVIVORS because the coronary heart of a Hustle Mama is a lion’s coronary heart. So here’s my LIFE LESSON ON THIS THROWBACK THURSDAY

I. hope you’ve watched The Golden Girls before because I am sharing this in my “SOPHIA VOICE”

Picture. it, the 12 months was 2002, and I was placing myself and my life back jointly after a bitter and nasty divorce from my first ex-husband

I. had met a man (we have been associates first, then ideal friends, then lovers, then a couple. He was the first man in my 33 years that I had fallen in love with on function and who had fallen in love with me first

We. have been soul mates to some measure. Anyway, he was also wealthy. I had usually struggled, even when married, as a single mom

Yes,. you can be a single mom, a single breadwinner, and all by your lonesome, even WITH a husband. . however you don’t hear ladies admitting that too much

But. that is what it was for me. Anyway, this was a man of many means; he wined, dined, and was variety to me

However,. I was so used to being emotionally and psychologically abused and tortured by my ex that I was not equipped to know my true worth of success in a relationship with this man

I. was still picking up the items from broken-ness and being in a 10-year narcissistic relationship

Even. as I write this and think of all that relationship was, I can truthfully say I WAS NOT READY. Of course, it ended, and of course, I was crushed and devastated and even, at one point, did not desire to live

I. did not desire to stay because my ex tortured me daily, stalked me, and threatened me and even anyone I was with, together with this man. He was impossible to escape from then and would not give me my freedom or peace

I. ultimately did get away, however it took YEARS. I recall praying and asking God to PLEASE SEND HIM A WOMAN so he may go away me And he answered, and he did

So. here are my lessons:

I settled when I married my ex-husband, and I knew that before I suggested I DO, however I DID because I wished to save face. I was damaged when I acquired into that relationship after my divorce, and I thought he would save me, however he may not and would not. I would have to save myself. If you are not entire when you meet and interact in a relationship, neither will you carry your A-game nor will you build to your maximum potential because we entice who we are, and if you aren’t happy, anyone is not being authentic

The. ideal relationship you may ever have, and master is the one you have with YOU!!!!

I hope this testimony has helped. Remember, when you FREE YOUR MIND, the REST WILL FOLLOW. xoxo xoxo