My Sophia Voice

We are overcomers by nature; a Hustle Mama will be going through all types of pains and still represent and do what she has to do with a smile.

We are SURVIVORS because the heart of a Hustle Mama is a lion’s. So here’s my LIFE LESSON ON THIS THROWBACK THURSDAY.

I hope you’ve watched The Golden Girls before because I am sharing this in my “SOPHIA VOICE”…..

Picture it, the year was 2002, and I was putting myself and my life back together after a bitter and nasty divorce from my first ex-husband.

I had met a man (we were friends first, then best friends, then lovers, then a couple. He was the first man in my 33 years that I had fallen in love with on purpose and who had fallen in love with me first.

We were soul mates to some degree. Anyway, he was also wealthy. I had always struggled, even when married, as a single mom.

Yes, you can be a single mom, a single breadwinner, and all by your lonesome, even WITH a husband. … but you don’t hear women admitting that too much.

But that is what it was for me. Anyway, this was a man of many means; he wined and dined me and was kind to me.

However, I was so used to being emotionally and psychologically abused and tortured by my ex that I was not equipped with KNOWING MY TRUE WORTH to be successful in a relationship with this man.

I was still picking up the pieces from brokenness and being in a 10-year narcissistic relationship.

Even as I write this and think of all that relationship was, I can honestly say I WAS NOT READY. Of course, it ended, and of course, I was crushed and devastated and even, at one point, did not want to live.

I did not want to live because my ex tortured me daily, stalked me, and threatened me and even anyone I was with, including this man. He was impossible to escape from then and would not give me my freedom or peace.

I eventually did get away, but it took YEARS. I remember praying and asking God to PLEASE SEND HIM A WOMAN so he could leave me And he answered, and he did.

So here are my lessons:

• I settled when I married my ex-husband, and I knew that before I said I DO, but I DID because I wanted to save face.
• I was broken when I got into that relationship after my divorce, and I thought he would save me, but he could not and would not. I would have to protect myself.
• If you are not whole when you meet and engage in a relationship, neither will you bring your A-game nor will you build to your most incredible capacity because we attract who we are, and if you aren’t happy, someone is not being authentic.

The best relationship you could ever have, and master is the one you have with YOU!!!!

I hope this testimony has helped. Remember, when you FREE YOUR MIND, the REST WILL FOLLOW. xoxo xoxo