Roxie Helm

What was life like growing up for you? What kind of family did you grow up in?
Life growing up was good. I am an only child, and I grew up with lots of friends and both parents, which my parents are still together today.

How old were you when you knew this was your calling and what you were going to do for the rest of your life?
I just figured this out a few years ago. While I knew I would do something that involved the entertainment industry, especially music, I just was not sure early on. BUT now that I figured that part out, I am IN it to win in!

Were you a dreamer growing up? What kinds of dreams did you have?
Yes, I was absolutely a dreamer! OMG! I wanted to be a singer. I can sing and write lyrics.

How hard was it breaking into the business? We hear stories all the time of people who try for years and never make it, and then other stories of overnight “in the right place at the right time” sensations.
I had been doing online Radio for five years, and I LOVED IT! I knew Radio was my calling. I felt it. But to get in was not easy. It was very hard. Unfortunately, I think there are way more stories of people that never make it. Especially these days. It isn’t easy to get into the music business, even with a degree.

How do you maintain your integrity in an otherwise very competitive and sometimes unscrupulous industry, as business at times can be cut-throat?
I am learning that this business is very cut-throat. My father told me this years ago, but for whatever reason, I did not believe him. I just figured, hey, I am a great person, always helpful and respectful, so that it would work out.

Sometimes it is hard to keep my mouth shut and keep moving, but I am learning that slowly but surely. As far as integrity, I pray daily. I know that God got me here for a reason. I also know that what is right is right, and what is wrong is wrong. As long as I am honest with myself and God, I am good.

What advice do you have for others who have THE dream?
When it comes to THE dream, never, ever let that dream die. I will not say it will be easy because it is not, but never let that go. If it is all you think about…you eat, sleep, and drink THAT dream, never let it die.

Try and connect with someone that is already doing what you want to do and learn all that you can from them. Unfortunately, with COVID-19, most businesses may not allow visitors. So, you may not be able to go to the job with them, but you can still learn a lot from that person.

What is it about this that makes you do what you do?
I LOVE MUSIC! I love clear, fresh, and articulate communication. I also LOVE the listeners. I call my listeners the “FABS.” They have been with me since Day One, and the love is just amazing!

How difficult is it to maintain a work-life balance? What measures do you take to ensure that you have that?
VERY! But what I do is put boundaries in place. I do not take any calls or emails before my shift begins, and I don’t do them after my shift ends. Work is just that. WORK, so it must stay there.

Would you consider yourself a driven person? What makes you a powerhouse? What is the source of your strength?
Yes, I do. I will admit that at times I still get a little discouraged. I pray, connect with someone who inspires me, and then I’m good!

A Powerhouse, huh (laughing & blushing)? I am confident. I know what I can do. I know my strong and weak assets, and I continuously work on them. My strength comes from knowing that I am good at what I do. All those things come from God, my family & friends, and my church family at New Life Kingdom Centre in Drexel Hill, PA. I could not do anything without them all.

What are some things you do to wind down and relax after grueling events and preparations for them?
Well, the wind-down is journaling, prayer, then watching the Golden Girls (laughing hard). I LOVE them, girls!!! Also, I might smoke a cigar and have a nice cocktail.
Now my preparation is very well-organized. I type everything out, make a copy, and create a folder (an actual folder I can hold in my hand – you know I’m old school!) I go over the details with whomever I need to, the week of the event, and then I am set to go! I sometimes use a clipboard.

What is your definition of peace? What is your definition of success?
Peace means to me – when you never worry. You know that you have no control over anything so that you can BE. Success means to me – you are content with every aspect of your life….Financially, Emotionally, Mentally & Physically.

What is the one thing you want people to remember most about you and your work?
I would love for people to feel that I contributed something to their lives. I pray that I have made people laugh, smile, and cry because I have always given them my true self.

What type of legacy do you wish to leave?
Legacy means a gift of property, especially personal property, as money, by will; a bequest. So in that aspect, everything I own that my children and grandchild want, they can have. I feel that I live my legacy every day, so I’m leaving a legacy that will make me proud.

What is the one dream for yourself you most look forward to having come true?
That one dream I look forward to is having complete peace and getting a husband, GIRL!! Lord! I pray all the TIME about those things. (laughing)

If there’s one thing you could change about your past, what would it be?
Wow! Hmmm, let me think…I would not have allowed fear to get in the way of everything I wanted to do.
I had an audition/meeting setup at Motown Records when I was 16, and I was so paranoid about leaving my friends that I refused to go.

If there’s one thing you could change about the world, what would it be?
There’s so much I would change about this world. But the main thing I would change would be to end racism. It is so sad that some people genuinely believe that they are better or privileged because of the color of their skin. It is terrifying too. Especially today!

What advice do you have for the young ladies (teens to young adult age) who are growing up in today’s world with so much influence in music that is not always supportive of their best interests? What advice would you give to the young men?
It is crazy because back in the day, so many words were completed muted on records. Now, it’s almost like they can say precisely what they want to say without softening much. And if they do quiet it, the video will speak for itself, you know.

I would say to the young ladies AND the young men to be true to yourself. Do not allow anyone to change you if it does not feel good or right to you and in your spirit. AND make sure your actions follow. It just does not work! You cannot have excellent and clean lyrics with a rachet video (laughing).

Also, make sure there is a message in your lyrics. I do not care what anyone says. We want to hear a storyteller. Whether it be R&B or Hip-Hop, tell a story. We all have a story to tell.
Sharing yours might help or even save someone listening.

Is there anything else that has not been asked that you would like featured and brought to the limelight? If so, please, by all means, let us know so that we don’t leave it out.
I am a Certified Life Coach, and I’m excited to assist people in achieving their goals and make them accountable! I also teach Voice Over Technique and How to Run a Board, etc., for Radio.

Visit my website for more information
www.roxifab.c

Being in the public eye is not without its consequences; how difficult is it to maintain excellent relationships (with girlfriends/boyfriends, childhood friends, family, and significant others)? How do you handle that?
WHEW, chile! Relationships. All of them “ships” are a TRIP (laughing)! I feel that, at times, I have been taken advantage of because of what I do, and my personality is infectious!

But Seriously, YES!! Some men want to date you because of who you are or what you do, and that sucks! Unfortunately, I tend to not figure that part out most times until much later, but hey, it is what it is, you know.

I also feel like we all have “fake” friends no matter what industry you work in, so those folks don’t even get the energy! Those friends who want tickets to every single event that goes on in the city. They already know I will not even respond to their text, sometimes (laughing).

My family is just highly supportive of it all, so they’re good. If my kids (my daughter Tiffany Wilson and her husband William Wilson, my oldest son Anthony Green, and my youngest son Zachary Helm) want tickets, they already know they got it!

Are you single?
Yes, I am single, and I do not like it AT ALL (laughing)!

How difficult is or was dating in your profession?
Dating in this industry is difficult for me because I feel like you just can’t trust everyone. You have to truly take time to get to know the person to make SURE they aren’t just in it to win it. And IT meant ticket passes and meeting celebs!

In your opinion, why are relationships failing today, and if you could remedy them, what would you do?
WOW! So, in my opinion, so many people have been hurt, if not traumatized, in their past relationships, So they lack trust…which is understandable. Also, some people are not good at communication. For any relationship to survive and thrive, communication is a must-have factor.

I don’t know what I can do to remedy why relationships are failing. But I do know that moving forward, I need communication and the truth nothing, but the truth, so help me, God!

What are you looking for/from a relationship?
In the words of Carrie Bradshaw from Sex in the City, “I am looking for LOVE…real LOVE..ridiculous, inconvenient, consuming, can’t live without each other LOVE.” That is precisely what I’m looking for—someone who truly wants to be in LOVE for the rest of their lives. To me, LOVE can conquer all if it is true.

Who’s been the most significant influence in your life?
My parents have been my most significant influence.
My dad, Carl Helm, is just one of a kind. He’s warm, caring, giving, and just a great dad. He is also a radio legend in Philadelphia, even though he had listeners from China! He’s the kind of dad and Pop-Pop that you want.

He is also a great singer. He has recorded background vocals for so many artists’ records…Patti LaBelle, Billy Paul, The Stylistics, Teddy Pendergrass, Phyllis Hyman, and many more. With me being an only child, my father is the backbone that keeps me standing up.

My mom, Dorothy Helm, is just an amazing mother. She has always been there for me, no matter what I was getting myself into. She’s the same for my children and her great-grandson Liam!

Who do you most admire and why?
I most admire my daughter, Tiffany. At age 34, she has become an incredible daughter, granddaughter, sister, wife, and mom (with a 3yr old boy named Liam – who is my heart). It has been such a joy and a pleasure to watch her become who she is.

She’s a beautiful person inside and out, and I couldn’t be any prouder. (I love my boys too! And I’m excited to see what they do with their futures as well!) She has been through a lot, but with her complete and total faith in God, she has been able to push through it all.