by Stefany J. Jones on Thursday, July 16, 2009, at 11:07 pm

I hollered when my college girlfriend said this to me when we were talking over dinner. I thought it was the funniest thing I ever heard. A gentleman who was over was talking about how sisters continue to male bash every chance they get. My girlfriend begged to differ and made that statement about the king and the joker. Her sentiment is that every chance sisters point out constructive feedback about their experiences and relationships; they are called man bashers.

Here’s my take on the whole thing. In a society where so many sisters have become conditioned to being called out of their name or referenced in derogatory ways, we all (both men and women) have become desensitized to the words that are spoken to us and over us. But more than that, how others define us has become the measure to which we learn to identify ourselves.

My answer to my girlfriend is plain and simple. You can’t expect to have a king or be in the presence of one if all you see and surround yourself with are jokers. What you expect to get is undoubtedly what you will have, and what you look forward to with expectation or fear (the choice is yours), shall certainly cross your path.

If by some miraculous feat we were able to see all men as kings, no matter their self-designation or self-degradation, or all women as queens despite their actions and deeds…what we would be doing is seeing through the eyes of unconditional acceptance, unconditional love, and in the highest light possible for the highest good of us all.

So the bottom line to her statement and my response is this:

You can’t keep thinking everyone is a joker, for a king is not made overnight, he is a prince until he meets and marries his queen.