by Stefany J. Jones on Tuesday, July 7, 2009, at 7:03 pm

I was thinking today about the dynamics of relationships and how the difficulty of merging personalities for ‘living happily ever after’ is something that should not be easily dismissed. I remember such sayings as “what’s good for the goose is good for the gander” or “two can play that game” or “anything you can do I can do better”…

During times of severe strain or conflict, the sayings I would instead remember are: “a soft answer turns away wrath” or “patience is a virtue” or “seek ye first the kingdom of God and his righteousness and all other things will be added to you.”

As women and particularly the Godly women that we have been called to be, we must never forget the following:
(1) The man that findeth a wife findeth a good thing and obtaineth favor with the Lord
(2) We are the ‘help meet’ to our men
(3) As wives, we must submit to our husbands

Now as an independent, self-sufficient woman who has had to fight more than relaxing, justify and prove more than just do, and learned the hard way that to take people at their word can lead to broken promises, hurt feelings and bounced checks – it has been another ball game altogether with the implementation of God’s word upon my life when it comes to relationships.

Nevertheless, the rite of passage and transition from girlfriend to fiancee to wife is one that takes more than being girded all up and down with word. It takes a knowing of who you are and who’s you are. But more than that, you must know your value and your very crucial part of being your husband’s good thing vis a vie, their absolute key to God’s additional favor. As help meet, remember, we must help them meet their destiny to be that you must know what it takes to be that, so that means a prayer life that can’t be beaten. It implies patience that is out of this world, and it means a humbling of your spirit that only Father could bring out of you by bringing a leader to you. Always thank God for meeting your needs, and if you are fortunate enough to have a good man in your life, thank Him for that blessing too.

So all my single ladies, let me share this…. You can get with this (the Godly way of doing things), or you can get with that (the Worldly way of doing things). … the choice is yours. But, when choosing a mate, remember to choose wisely. For the only man for a Godly woman is a Godly man who will stop, look, listen, heed, and obey the voice of God.

But more than that, I have heard my brother’s friends share with me their dating challenges. So I must also add that when you’ve found yourselves a lady who is a praying woman, you have found one of God’s most prized possessions. You better know the blessing that is tied to your woman, but more than that linked to how you ‘love’ that woman. A Godly woman is priceless, far above rubies because with her comes the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow (and no, I’m not talking about money). For a praying woman leads her man to the kingdom of God and His righteousness through her words, deeds, and actions (hopefully), and then all ‘other’ things are added. So fellas, remember You can get with this (a Godly woman with a promise) or you can get with that (the Worldly woman with everything temporal)….the choice is yours.


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