WHEN YOU’VE ALLOWED YOURSELF TO GET TOO COMFORTABLE

Stefany J

THERE’s NOTHING WORSE THAN ASKING A PERSON TO GIVE YOU THE TRUTH & TO BE HONEST WITH YOU; ONLY TO DISCOVER THAT THEY WERE LIVING A LIE FROM THE VERY BEGINNING.

THE WORST PART ABOUT BEING LIED TO IS KNOWING THAT YOU WEREN’T WORTH THE TRUTH!

 

This thing called healthy self-esteem is bigger than we know.

In my opinion, self-esteem comes in a close second to pride and ego when determining the causes for most breakdowns in communication between friends, lovers, partners, children, and spouses. Think about it for a minute, it is most often a person’s ego and/or self- esteem that causes them to be offended by the actions and/or deeds of another. Likewise, it is only pride that stands in the way of an apology on either side of an equation or offense, if you will. The one thing I’ve learned through all of my lessons in life, is that both are the fruits a tree or person rooted in fear. They hang off alongside unforgiveness, regret, complacency, and anger management.

I’ve had my own challenges as it pertains to relationships and dealing with people in the past, and almost every time the beginning of the “issues” was always lack of communication. I don’t know what it is but in this technology age of ours it seems that people are all ready to surrender the value of a good, much needed, and sometimes very warranted conversation to chance, mobile devices, and even the air of uncertainty. All of which, in my opinion has become an extreme we’ve all become too comfortable with accepting.

The truth may hurt, but it will absolutely set you free!

People ask me about the demise of my marriage and how my ex could have lived a double life like he did. When you’ve discovered that the person you have been with has been lying to you all along, it’s the lie that hurts more than anything. The one thing I learned was that his actions and deceptions were not anything that I should have taken personally, because he was lying as much if not even more so to himself, as well as all of us (me and all the other women with whom he was having relationships with). I guess the only people strong enough to deliver the sword of truth are those with the stamina to handle its blow when it’s time for them to get hit with it. And as with any other realization of any kind, it may hurt, but you will indeed be made free. They say that the worst part about being lied to is knowing that you weren’t worth the truth. I believe that the worst part about being lied to is the lack of consideration for the person being entitled to choose for themselves.