Spring is here! That means spring cleaning our homes – but what about our heads?
We clean, organize, and beautify our homes; yet we clutter our heads – our most intimate space – with the emotional equivalents of trash, dust, and junk. We hold onto anger, resentment, and frustration. Why do we make more effort to clean our physical spaces than our heads?
Spring cleaning our heads start is the process of clearing our mindsets. With a thorough understanding of how we relate to the world through our relationships with ourselves, with others, and with what we do, we are able to get a handle on setting things right and in order. In terms of ourselves, we listen to our inner chatter more than anything else.
It is the voice that drives our decisions, draws our conclusions, and makes us believe nonsense: I am not good enough. I am not attractive. I am not smart. Nobody wants me.
There is not much of a difference between how we relate to ourselves and how we relate to others. We make decisions and judgments about them almost as much as we do for ourselves. Our inner voice finds evidence to condemn them. They are inconsiderate, unreliable, uncaring, and uncommitted.
You probably think that’s not you – that you always try to find the good in people. But in all, honesty, true revelation, and self-actualization mean that you must own your darkness as well as your light. You cannot love anyone unless you love yourself, and you cannot love yourself unless you wholly own your humanity – the good, the bad, and the ugly.
If we are brave enough to look introspectively, we may find ourselves facing all the relationships we have abandoned, the dysfunctional family relationships we’ve survives, or maybe the jobs we have left or lost because we couldn’t get along with others.
With our perceptions of how we feel about ourselves and what we do for a living, and about our jobs overall, there are many who find their circumstances difficult, hard, and definitely unfulfilling. It is easy to feel unappreciated and misunderstood.
Consider your relationship to the world itself, to the world we have created. It’s a world we’ve been trying to change for a long time, but that so far has left us unhappy. We see the world as a place that is unsafe and intimidating, where we’re trying to make it, trying to not get hurt; where we’re resigned, where there’s no possibility. When we really dig into the inner chatter that consumes our minds, don’t you think it’s time to pick up a broom and get to work?
You may be thinking to yourself, where should I start? It’s too hard. It will take a long time. You might be right, but consider your options: Do what you’ve always done, or choose a new way of being, and make a difference in your life, the lives of others and, ultimately, in your experience of life itself. Neither choice is good or bad, right or wrong, but each will have drastically different consequences.
Change takes time, determination, and practice. You already have years of practice becoming who you have become. So it will take practice to master who you want to become next.
What kind of experiences do you want in life? Would you rather merely not fail, or do you strive to succeed? Would you rather settle for just okay, or do you want to go for great? The difference will live in the spring cleaning you decide to do… or not!
If you are resigned and think you can’t get rid of that clutter, think again and try this approach:
- Acknowledge that you have dis-empowered yourself and others and that you have been a complainer.
- Determine the benefit of holding on to those complaints.
- Contemplate the excuses you use for not letting go of those complaints.