As a huge part of society, girls with confidence and high self-esteem are important to be raised by parents. Hadley Martin writes in The Guardian, “Biddulph writes in a voice of near rising hysteria, by everything from “diet ads, alcohol marketing and fashion pressures, to the inroads of hard pornography into teenage bedrooms”. Girls, he writes, “are filling up mental-health clinics, the police stations and emergency rooms, and the drug and alcohol programs in numbers never seen before.” (http://www.guardian.co.uk/commentisfree/2013/jan/08/parent-girls-guide).

So, how do we save girls? We can go about that in several manners. First, Sean Platt writes that it is crucial to show children that they are appreciated, loved, and that they light up our worlds. He writes, “Think about it from an adult perspective – wouldn’t you love it if the face of the person you loved most lit like a holiday parade every time you entered the room?” (http://zenhabits.net/7- secrets-to-raising-a-happy-child/)

Second, in order to raise a girl with high self-esteem, it is very important to keep her physically active and healthy. Limit their access to media so that they do not get exposed to negative self-image, self- harm, and mean comments from others. Michael Grose writes “Raising Confident, Happy Girls,” where he says, “Girls really benefit from spending time in natural environments including through organized groups such as Guiding; camping in the bush with the family or just free playing in the backyard.” (http://www.parentingideas.com.au/Blog/January-2013/Raising-great-girls)

Grose writes, “Research shows that girls have more fears than boys. These includes developmental fears (e.g. fear of separation from parents as a toddler) and learned fears (e.g. fear of dogs). Some experts believe that this increase in fearfulness is related to overprotective parenting.” So, not only do girls need to be outside, with you, they also need your support to face those fears and overcome that. On the same note, allow your children to express themselves, and, as Platt writes, “make a few rules. You don’t have to make them the boss to let them feel empowered. Often, power struggles with our children are the direct result of them feeling a loss of control.”

In addition, you should “model appropriate behavior,” because “Children do as they see, not as they’re told. If you want your child to be mindful of others, you must be mindful of others yourself. If you want your child to by happy, you must smile without hesitation,” Platt advises.

A very important to note is that girls are often judged by the way they look, rather than their performance in school, or their personalities. The one way to break the cycle is by raising girls who think of themselves as more than eye candy. They are smart, independent, strong, and interesting girls who have plenty to say and plenty to do. So, reward them for having good grades, for participating in activities or volunteering.

It is important to empower girls so they can face, and hopefully even change and challenge, the media and society’s negative and inaccurate view of them.
It is important to empower girls so they can face, and hopefully even change and challenge, the media and society’s negative and inaccurate view of them.