Tawana Lowery

The #SerialOvercomer

TawanaLowery.com | @overcome4good

HMM: What was life like growing up for you? What kind of family did you grow up in?

Born and raised as a proper southern girl from Alabama, I learned early on that failure was unacceptable and transparency was more than taboo. “I was taught to just grin and bear it… no matter how tragic or unbearable IT was!

I call myself the #SerialOvercomer because I have had to overcome some really difficult and challenging hardships… Many you just would not believe.

  • Date Rape at 15
  • A Forced Abortion
  • An abusive home life as a child
  • A drug addicted Mother and an emotionally absent Father
  • Single Motherhood
  • Living below the Poverty line for several years
  • 2 Divorces
  • 2 Bankruptcies
  • 3 Failed Businesses
  • The death of both parents back to back
  • Finding out that my spouse of 26 years had only given me 1 year of faithfulness

HMM:  If there’s one thing you could change about your past, what would it be?

While the things I have gone through were difficult, I don’t think I would change anything. Reflecting on all that’s happened, from childhood until now, I realize my trails have made me who I am today.

My hardships were multiplied… multiple abortions, multiple divorces, multiple bankruptcies, multiple betrayals, multiple failed businesses and the death of both parents. Turns out, it was all meant for good! Now I have a message that multiplies HOPE.

With all I’ve gone through… I SHOULD BE A STATISTIC! But the heavens had another plan. I DEFIED GRAVITY… I BEAT THE ODDS! I was given the GIFT of overcoming. And now I am on a global mission to empower as many people as possible to do the same. That’s driving passion behind what I do from speaking, to blogging and especially in writing my latest book, “5 Easy Steps to Life Changing Prayer.”

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HMM: How old were you when you knew this was your calling and what you were going to do for the rest of your life?

For as long as I can remember, I have always loved to write. It seems to come natural to me. Whether working on an article, a new blog or my latest book, writing Makes My Heart Sing! It’s my sweet spot. My driving motivation is to share something of value to make the strongest possible connection with the reader. I want them to feel what I am saying and let them know they are not alone in their struggle or difficulty. You never know the impact a simple sentence or phrase can have on another person.

People consistently express how my blogs or books have touched them in a personal and lasting way. Hearing comments like that makes my heart sing even more!  I like to think that’s one of the reasons my blog is followed by people in more than 90 countries.

HMM:  Would you consider yourself a driven person? What makes you a powerhouse? What is the source of your strength?

To the outside observer, it may appear as if I’m “driven.” The truth is I am extremely passionate about using my gifts and talents to leave my mark on this world for good. And my social media says it loud and clear @overcome4Good.  I love that message because it can mean whatever you want it to mean. Its adaptable for the person or their situation. The truth is there’s an Overcomer is everyone! But sometimes we just need a little inspiration to bring it out. That’s what I like to do. I love to use my own personal tragedies to INSPIRE and ENCOURAGE others to never quite.

HMM:  What advice do you have for others who have THE dream?

Just get started. Have faith and be flexible. Surround yourself with people encouragers and great mentors. Don’t be afraid to PAY FOR GOOD ADVICE.

Don’t explain yourself to anyone. You are running YOUR race and not theirs. You do not need other people’s permission to DO YOU!

No matter what someone purposes in their heart to achieve, difficulty is inevitable. Not everyone is going to be in your corner. Those you think will be there usually won’t. The ones you aren’t expecting to be there usually will.

But regardless of who is or who is not in your corner, you must stay true to what your gut is telling you. BE YOU because no one else can. That also means you don’t have the grace to be someone else. 

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Sometimes people ask me what my very best advice for success would be. Their question always makes me remember a famous speech by Winston Churchill where he said repeatedly, “never, never, never, never quite!” My best advice is, “never, never, never, never stop moving forward.”  That’s the trademark of a Serial Overcomer. That’s what I’ve been determined to do…. no matter what!

HMM: What is your definition of peace? What is your definition of success?

One of my most popular Key Notes talks  is called “10 Easy Steps for Lasting Success.” In it I talk about the 10 things anyone can do to propel them towards a “success lifestyle.” You don’t need a pedigree or a college degree. And that’s why I love it so much. I talk about practical things we can choose to do each day.

I remember the first time I was able to buy a box of Kleenexes… as in something other than toilet paper to blow my nose with. For most of my 20’s I was a lonely, struggling single mother. I would invite folks to read my blog at TawanaLowery.com where I give some details on the principle s that moved me out of poverty to a prosperous and fulfilled life.

But I believe the biggest success we can achieve is to value who God made us to be and the gifts and talents he has packed inside to touch the world in our generation. Leaving a legacy of kindness and encouragement (no matter how big or small) is true success.

HMM:  What is the one dream for yourself you most look forward to having come true?

Right now, I have more dreams and goals than I’ll be able to achieve in my lifetime. My prayer is that I can inspire future generations to pick up where I leave off. But I also pray I can spend all my days growing and learning and stretching. In fact, the split second before I die I hope to learn something brand new or see something hilarious. That way I’ll die with either a look of amazement or a really big smile!

tawana-157ALL ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS

HMM: Are you single?

I am currently a very happy and content single woman. At this point I’m considering the possibility that I might not be “wife material.” And I’m feeling okay about it. I like not having to worry about trying to fill the void in another person’s heart. It just too much pressure! Maybe there’s a reason why I fell in love with the Mary Tyler Moore show when I was younger.

HMM: How difficult is or was dating in your profession?

I don’t date very often… by choice. For one, it’s time consuming. With all I have going on, I’m lucky to get 7 hours of sleep each night. Unless the guy can keep hold my attention with substantive conversation, I’d rather spend the time writing or having a glass of wine with my girlfriends. “What’s the Highest and Best use of my Time” is a motto I try to live by.

HMM: In your opinion why are relationships failing today and if you could remedy them, what would you do?

Just recently I wrote a blog entitled “3 Things I would tell my Younger Self about Marriage and Divorce.” It seemed to resonate with a lot of people because it’s practical, tough love kind of insight that everyone should consider. You can check it out at TawanaLowery.com

HMM: What are you looking for/from a relationship?

The more experienced you become the more you realize that knowing what you DON’T want is more important than what you think you want. When you’re clear about the non-negotiable things, when you are committed to being true to yourself, when fulfilling your destiny is more important than a filling out a form on a dating site, then you will inevitably encounter the right person with the right qualities at the right time. Just focus on being a whole person. Then you will eventually meet other whole persons. It’s worth the wait.

HMM: Who’s been the greatest influence in your life?

People who influence me and capture my admiration are those who overcome life’s challenges and go forward to make a positive impact on the world. They motivate me and inspire me to come up higher. That’s the type of person I hope to be.