She is a woman with purpose!
HMM: What was life like growing up for you? What kind of family did you grow up in? TCC: I grew up in a traditional Christian household where we went to church every Sunday and stayed there oftentimes for most of the day. However my parents were not super strict; we knew how to have fun. My family life has always been centered on music and working hard. My family was, and still is, very close. Growing up, I also found myself in various leadership positions that helped shaped who I am today.
HMM: How old were you when you knew this was your calling and what you were going to do for the rest of your life? TCC: I was about 24 when it became clearer as to what I was supposed to be doing.
HMM: Were you a dreamer growing up? What kinds of dreams did you have? TCC: I was definitely a dreamer growing up. I dreamed about helping people globally in some capacity. As I grew older, I knew I wanted to help people communicate more effectively in their personal and professional lives.
HMM: What made you decide to be what you have chosen as a profession today? Who were some of your earliest influences? TCC: I noticed the patterns in my life where people were having the most difficult times communicating with each other. It first became apparent in some of my parents’ interactions I witnessed and then with friends and then with co-workers. As I experienced these exchanges, I grew an innate ability to pinpoint the turning points where things began to fall apart interpersonally for people.
I recognized the need and knew I could help. That’s when I researched and learned about life coaching and created C.O.L.D Consulting (Communication, Organization, and Leadership Development). Through these 3 concepts, I believe we can all find our way to better relationships with ourselves and others.
I especially enjoy sharing them with children and students in the community during workshops. Working with Job Corps centers is always a highlight for me because students learn how to be proactive in their healing in spite of their backgrounds. Carolyn Myss, Iyanla Vanzant, Valerie Burton, Deepak Chopra, Neale Donald Walsch, Lisa Nichols were some of my earliest influences and helped me develop my coaching processes.
HMM: How hard was it breaking into the business? Which one do you think there’s more of? Those who pay their dues, or opportunity meeting preparation? TCC: I don’t see it as though I had to break into the industry. I believe there is someone in the world who needs me, and it is my task to be prepared and create opportunities for us to connect. There is no competition in life coaching. There is a coach for everyone, but every coach is not for everyone. There is a connection that must be there for the coaching process to be successful.
HMM: How do you maintain your integrity in an otherwise very competitive and sometimes unscrupulous industry, as business at times can be cut throat? TCC: To maintain my integrity, I remind myself that even though there are many coaches in my field, my approach is uniquely mine and will resonate with the right clients. I am content with the “no” because I know there will be a “yes” at the perfect time. Despite what competitive coaches and business people feel, this belief is not complacent; it is intuitive maturity.
HMM: What advice do you have for others who have THE dream? TCC: Prepare. Prepare. Prepare. You can never be too prepared for your dream. Learn as much as you can so that you can confidently walk into your dream when the opportunities arrive. There is nothing worse than having an opportunity and not being prepared for it. Read A LOT.
HMM: What is it about this that makes you do what you do? TCC: When people have their “aha” moments and gain the knowledge that empowers them to steer their own lives, that makes it worthwhile for me. I love when clients no longer depend on or need my services and are ready to elevate more.
HMM: How difficult is it to maintain a work-life balance? What measures do you take to ensure that you have that? TCC: I am constantly asked how do I do it. “How do you get it all done and stay sane?” Of course, there are certain strategies that assist in making life simpler. But, my response is always, “Things just fall into place.” I am consistent in my priorities and everything else falls where necessary in perfect timing. Now, this may not be perfect timing for others, but I can’t let that be my concern and get in the way of my joy.
HMM: Would you consider yourself a driven person? What makes you a powerhouse? What is the source of your strength? TCC: I am very driven because I believe in having my children witness the infinite possibilities available to them. I also, know that everyone can become empowered and that gets me excited anytime I teach, speak, and coach.
HMM: What are some of the things you do to wind down and relax after grueling events and preparations for them? TCC: Meditation and sleep are my greatest allies. When my energy feels unraveling, I know that I have neglected one or both.
HMM: What is your definition of peace? What is your definition of success? TCC: For me, peace is when we are not attached to expectations and outcomes. Yes, there are goals that we reach for but we should not be bound by them. Success is when we accept this and are able to enjoy life by the moment.
HMM: What is the one thing you want people to remember most about you and your work? TCC: I want people to remember how I never allow anyone or any challenge stop me from living in my purpose and my truth. I want people to remember how I cared about them and their spiritual wellbeing, not their money.
HMM: What type of legacy do you wish to leave? TCC: My legacy should be that a legacy is irrelevant because we must actualize our own path and be accountable for our own lives. I understand that even though I provide examples for my children, their life belongs to them; their choices are theirs and I am not ultimately responsible for that. The pressures of wanting to leave a legacy can be a breeding ground for bitterness, resentment, and regret. Learn from others and use what works best for your life.
HMM: What is the one dream for yourself you most look forward to having come true? TCC: I look forward to complete freedom, living on an island… and meeting Oprah.
HMM: If there’s one thing you could change about your past, what would it be? TCC: I wouldn’t change a thing about my past because I understand how each challenge and perceived hardship was necessary for my growth. I lived through them, so why complain about them? I agree with Carolyn Myss’ concept of woundology, and I refuse to use my past pain as a method of social control.
HMM: What advice do you have for the young ladies who are growing up in today’s world with so much influence in music that is not always supportive of their best interests? What advice would you give to the young men? TCC: I advise young ladies and men to actively listen instead of merely hearing the music. Internalize what is being communicated through the music and decide whether it complements your true values, not the values of the people around you or what your friends believe, but what resonates with who you are at the core. I believe that, at the core, we all want to go for the light not the dark side. Witnessing the darkness helps up find the light.
HMM: Is there anything else that has not been asked, that you would like featured and brought to the limelight? If so, please by all means let us know so that we don’t leave it out. TCC: There are many upcoming projects and partnerships in my future that will further highlight non-traditional learning. I look forward to expanding globally and helping others find the powerful connections between business and spirituality by teaming up with Chris & Crys Spiritual Concierge. I have also found great pleasure in becoming the Director of Communication and Leadership Development for the non-profit Bridge Da Gap, Inc. This organization is a unique movement that enhances the social-emotional development of youth by using music as a communication tool for academics and life skills.
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“I look forward to your transformation!”
Jennifer Wilkes, The Cold Coach