Oh my goodness, this was a life-changer I learned attending a workshop, the short course changed my life.
I met my love after five years of being single and feeling more and more lonely, till that fated evening when I found out what I wanted in a partner. And soon enough, I was in a steady relationship, totally in love, and finally married. It is the second and last time, for good reasons, of course. Curious about how we met? If for you or someone you know, here is the exercise I learned in a special romance workshop. It worked, and we have now been married for over seven years, together for over 14.
Step 1: Get a pen and paper, whiteboard, or notebook on your device, and write down the ten qualities that are most important to you in a partner. And remember, this is to help you move forward, so no cheating! For example, “attractive, tall, green eyes, black hair, athletic” does not count as one quality but 5. And “kind, generous, loyal” are three qualities, not 1. Take your time writing them down. These are the ten qualities that you want more than any others, so again, no cheating. Keep it to 10.
Step 2: Now, scan this list of 10 qualities that you have written down. Think about how you feel about these qualities. Then be very strong and let go of 5 of them. Yes, I know this can be hard, but do it anyway. There is a reason for that. Now you have the five qualities that are the most important of all to you in a partner.
Step 3: OK, now the exciting part. Cut the list down to 3 qualities and no more. Take your time; you can experiment with it, think how you feel, and look at the list until you have whittled it down to 3 qualities. These are the qualities that are important for you in a partner. Now focus your attention; we can usually only find a partner that satisfies three qualifications that are important to us.
Example:
If it is “Honest, Loyal, and Black-haired,” then don’t waste time on dishonest people (do they cheat on their taxes, or tell lies in social groups to make themselves seem more interesting?)
Disloyal people (are they that way to their employer or cheated on their partner, for example?)
Or people with blond hair (because that would not keep your interest looks-wise long-term). Of course, these are just three qualities I plucked out of thin air with no prejudice to blond, red, brown, black, or bald-haired amazing partners, but you get the idea.
Happy searching and finding!