A Spoon Full of Sugar
An infatuation can disappear overnight, but a marriage doesn’t fall apart that quickly. The disintegration of your relationship happens over time. Along the way, there are many opportunities to make your union more satisfying and healthy.
But, many people spend years and years doing nothing to fix their relationship. They are miserable and their marriage doesn’t add any satisfaction to their life. They just can not conceptualize what is happening in their life. Their thoughts are disorganized and confused. They just avoid thinking about their problems and hope for the best. But problems that don’t get worked on are never solved.
What tends to happen is that things get worse and worse. Both partners get upset over more and more things. Communication spirals downwards and sometimes ceases. Other times, the couple lives in the state of heated arguments and power struggles. One small statement can trigger an entire argument.
If you’ve gotten to this place in your marriage, you need some relationship medicine. And a spoonful of sugar can’t help sweeten a sour marriage.
A Healthy Marriage Day by Day
You can never afford to stop paying attention to your relationship. If you do, it will stop functioning. Marriage is work, and you have to work at it every day. Just as a car needs regular maintenance, your relationship needs to be tuned up in order to keep running.
Some people spend more time keeping their car in good shape ñ gas, oil changes, and regular
maintenance ñ than they do working with their spouse. The thing is, a car isn’t a relationship ñ your marriage is.
A car is a machine. But people have thoughts, feelings, motivations, desires, and actions of their own. These complicate any interactions.
And remember ñ no matter how much money you spent on your car ñ your relationships are much more expensive!
When the two of you first got together, you spent time and emotional energy to become close. You shared your thoughts, feelings and experience with one another. You had secrets that you didn’t share with anyone else.
Over time, people become guilty of not nurturing their relationships because they have so many other pressing responsibilities. There’s a job, housework, and children to tend to. Oh yeah, and a car to take care of!
But you owe it to yourself and your spouse to give your relationship special care. While you need to take care of all of the adult responsibilities of life, you also need to be nourished as a person and live a balanced life. That’s where your relationship comes in; the things that keep you and your mate closely bonded keep you sane. If you fail to do this, you will spend a lot more time, emotion, energy, and money breaking up and starting over.
Tomorrows article will be a continuation of the Series of Articles on “A Spoonful Of Sugar” people who date or marry people of the same work or profession as theirs. Doctors marry doctors, lawyers to lawyers, accountants to accountants and office workers to another office worker simply
because they are together every day and they understand each other’s work. Do not look too far because your Mr. Right might be in the next cubicle right in front of you.
Community or charity services.
Of course, the only reason to do community or charity service is that you want to give back to the community but it is inevitable to meet new people since this kind of activity involves other people. Good things happen to good people and who knows, your good deeds might actually turn into a good fortune of finding your dream man. But even if you don’t end up meeting the guy of your dreams, at the end of the day, you know that you’ve done something good to others. There are plenty of community and charity services that you can do like a blood drive, food drive, cleaning campaign, programs for senior citizens, environmental projects, youth programs, helping other kids, helping animal shelters, etc.
Parties with friends and weddings. Your friends can help you find a man. One of the best places to meet single men is through attending weddings and parties with mutual friends. Hanging out with friends in parties and weddings will give you the chance to meet the friends of your friends. Meeting single men through mutual friends is a great way to expand your network of friends. With a broad network of friends, it will be easier to meet the man you are looking for.
In the gym or sports activities. It is common for men to be physically active and to be involved in physical fitness activities. Most men want to be physically fit and the best place to keep their body fit is in the gym or doing outdoor spo
rts or physical activities. Many of these men who are very concerned about their physique are single men. One of the best places to meet single men is in the gym or outdoor sports activities. Participating in sports or physical activities like bowling, golf, rock climbing or joining a running club can help you meet healthy single men.
Workshops or training schools. Cooking lessons, acting workshops, dance classes, photography classes are some of the best places to meet single men. Doing this is like hitting two birds in one stone. You can learn new skills and you can meet new people including single men who are interested on the same things you are into. Meeting single men with the same interest as yours can be really exciting. You have more things to talk about and you can do things together.
Beach. Although the beach may not be one of the ideal places to meet single men, there are romances that started meeting their soulmate on the beach. Men do not usually go alone on the beach, some go with their families, some with their wives or girlfriends but some go with their male friends. If you love the water and loves walking by the seashore, there is nothing wrong going to the beach and who knows you might bump into one of those group of single guys having fun on the beach. Love can be found in the most unexpected place.
Art exhibits and museums. People who love arts are romantic people and they could be the best dates. Art exhibits and museums are two of the best places to meet single men. There are studies that guys who enjoy viewing arts and cultural pieces in galleries and museums are happier and in better shape physically and psychologically than those who don’t visit these places. Going to museums and art exhibits will give you the chance to meet single men.
Parks. This is a very common place where people go to relax and get some fresh air and of course, one of the best places to meet single men. Some people go to the park to jog in the morning or during lunch breaks. Some spend their weekends reading a book, doing stuffs on their gadgets or simply sitting on the bench watching other people. Some people go to the park to walk their dog which is a great way to attract single men who are also pet lovers.
Waiting for the right man to come to you may not be applicable in today’s generation where eligible men have become a rare species and the number of single ladies is getting bigger. If you keep waiting, chances are, you’ll end up single for a long time. Your dream man maybe somewhere out there doing his thing and meeting new people, including women or potential girlfriends while you are just sitting there waiting for him to find you. Why not go out and visit the places mentioned above where you can find nice single men to zest up your dating life and meet your dream man?